OOP, Need advice about creating programs with an architecture

I need to learn the right way to use OOP. I mean do's & dont's, pros or cons about some specific examples -which i will plan to learn that too-. When to use interface or abstract class, controlling an object implicitly(at the class that object instantiated from, might be the wrong word choice, don't know about the terminology good) or explicitly(at some other controller class) etc. What i'm trying to tell is i'm sure there are right ways to use OOP, but i don't know how to reach that educational contents. Which educational contents(documents, books, tutorials) you can suggest me to learn about creating a good structure for my program?

Thanks all, have a nice day.